Present Over Perfect
Present Over Perfect
Sounds great, right? I’d love to wake up everyday with no to-do list, endless white space in my calendar, peace in my heart and mind, and days upon days of only doing what fills my soul. Dreamy, right? Realistic? I’m figuring that out!!
As I head into the final months of being with my twins, who will graduate in May and then head off to college 1500 miles from me, I crave being present more than ever. But putting it into practice is way easier said than done.
So often I have 50 million things I need to do and places I need to be. And lately I've been justifying my too busy schedule and distracted mind because it’s all with the heart to serve my family. Do you do that too? I have the best of intentions, BUT, it doesn't allow me to be fully present. And when my schedule is maxed out, and my brain is filled to the brim, then I am only “kinda” present with those I love the most. And this means I miss out on important times of connection and laughter and soul filling times.
God has put it on my heart that despite my good intentions, things need to change. But before I move on to that, let me be CLEAR, there is nothing wrong with working hard, pushing for goals, going the extra mile, saying yes to things that are life-giving to your soul, and having a full life, but there has to be balance! I will never stop being passionate about my calling as a Certified Grief and Health & Wellness Coach. I will never stop being passionate about providing for my family. I will never stop being passionate about having strong relationships with my husband, my kids, my friends, and my family. And I will never stop being passionate about helping others rebuild their lives, because I have been there and I know how hard it can be! BUT, I do have to learn boundaries and balance!
My heart, I’m sure like yours, longs for my family to know my deep love for them, that I’d do anything for them, and I want to provide the best life for them. And they do know that. But, I think sometimes we forget that providing the best life doesn’t mean saying yes to one more thing, or pushing one more hour to crush that goal, or building our bank account so we are just a little more comfortable, but simply being present, open, and available to them and their world.
In one of my favorite books, Present Over Perfect, the author Shauna Niequist, reminds us that, “…it’s not about managing time or housekeeping. It’s not about to-do lists or scheduling or minutes or hours. The journey is about love, about worth, about God, about what it means to know him and be loved by him in a way that grounds and reorders everything.”
WOW!!! This is the game changer for me. Without meaning to, I’ve confused my priorities, and made PROVING that I can come back after losing my husband to cancer and having my life fall apart, that I can build a successful business, and be a loving and amazing “do it all” wife, mother, volunteer, friend, and daughter. The truth is, I don’t need to prove anything to anyone. And neither do you!
We do need slow down, and get back to simple things in life. We do need to love ourselves just as we are, because God first loved us, and accept that we are enough. We do need to say yes to what is life-giving to our soul. We do need to let go of the to-do list and simply do the best we can. And sometimes, we need to stop and just be still, because this is where we really find the peace and joy of life.
So I ask you, What is it your trying to prove? What keeps you from being present with those that you love?
Will you join me this week as we begin to transform our lives from the inside out. I am going to be sharing some simple changes we can make to begin this journey. Please reach on my contact page so we can connect! I can’t wait to do this together!